Much of my work as a Counsellor involves helping people to resolve relationship conflicts, with individuals, couples, families, and work colleagues. Conflict in relationships is common.
Our response to conflict is key. When conflict is left unresolved with rising tensions, relationships begin to break down. Relationship conflicts stem from many pressures, such as financial, unemployment, social, intimacy, unresolved emotional issues and childhood experiences.
Individual counselling forms the basis of resolving conflict. However, it is important that, where the conflicts include other people, especially families, all those involved in the relationship conflict are involved in the overall process.
While the main goal is to work towards reinvigorating positive relationships, sometimes relationships do not work out and one or both parties choose to end the relationship. Ending a relationship is complex and often difficult because it is normal for people to go through the stages of grieving when facing the prospect of the end of a relationship. The grieving process is an important consideration as is striving for an amicable resolution.
Counselling plays an important role in reestablishing communications and finding constructive ways to continue or end the relationship. The counselling process is invaluable in helping with goal setting, effective communication, and adopting problem-solving skills so the way forward is clear and attainable.